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Here’s a fun community-building idea: Friday Night Meatballs!

“The key to reducing that sense of shame for the 20 percent of people who face a mental health issue every year is to make various mental health concerns better understood and less scary. Our pop culture can go a long way towards that goal.

“Why is it that when women of colour share their pain with you, you can’t help but make it about yourselves?”

“Violence against women by men is the crime that is most condoned.” You probably saw Emma Watson’s speech at the UN launching new equality initiative HeForShe, but UN Women Executive Director Phumzile Mlambo-Ngcuka followed up with a statistics-laden speech that also deserves attention.

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Who’s your Marvel universe Myers-Briggs match?

Amazing essay tying all the little moments of misogyny and erasure in media to the larger problem of human empathy. “I’m going to tell you a story about llamas. It will be like every other story you’ve ever heard about llamas: how they are covered in fine scales; how they eat their young if not raised properly; and how, at the end of their lives, they hurl themselves – lemming-like- over cliffs to drown in the surging sea. Every story you hear about llamas is the same…Oh, and it’s not true.” If you read nothing else this week, read this.

Actually, read this as well: “They can’t understand the logic of a world where ‘Social Justice Warrior’ just doesn’t work as an insult, because a great many people care quite a lot about social justice and are proud to fight for it. They can’t understand why they look ridiculous.

Why #GamerGate matters to parents.

Artist Haley Morris-Cafiero did a photography series called “Wait Watchers,” which captures and exposes the fat-shaming she experiences.

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“I feel like there’s this weird thing happening where people think women just showed up [in comics], like we haven’t been here the whole time.” Check out this interview with Wonder Woman writer/artist duo Cat Staggs and Amanda Deibert, and check out their comic too!

4 ways to honor Native Americans without appropriating their culture.

A sociology student set up five different online dating profiles for herself, all depicting her dressed in a different alternative style.  She gets some…interesting responses.

Obviously the current “Star Trek” movies aren’t doing well with the Bechdel Test, but how to the series stack up?

Margaret Atwood is writing a new book…which no one will get to read for 100 years because it’s the first work to be chosen for the Future Library.

Quit harassing women in gaming.

Here are two names you need to know: Zoe Quinn and Anita Sarkeesian. Quinn is the creator of (among other things) the game “Depression Quest,” a role-playing game designed to help those who don’t suffer from depression better relate to those who do. Sarkeesian does the video series “Tropes vs. Women In Video Games,” which lays bare the amount of sexism and sex-based violence in video games.

Because the gaming world is full of morons and cruel people and idiots, naturally, there’s been backlash against these two women for trying to do things like make life easier for those struggling with depression and point out just how messed up it is that so many video games offer the murder of nameless prostitutes as an activity.

“Backlash” is really too tame a word for what’s been going on this month. Quinn has been subjected to having her online communication outlets hacked, her personal address published, and naked videos circulated by Adam Baldwin of all people. (I am officially off the “Firefly reunion” train because I don’t want to see Adam Baldwin’s face in anything ever again.) This was all sparked by her ex-boyfriend posted several blog posts alleging affairs she had while they were together, which is tacky and hurtful in all kinds of ways.

Meanwhile, Sarkeesian has simply been doing what she always does: addressing and analyzing the harmful patterns in how women are depicted and treated in video games.

Both women have been subjected to rape and death threats and had their personal information published online.

Worst of all, this is nothing new for them.

I don’t think any of those aforementioned morons or cruel people or idiots read my blog, but in case they do, this is for them:

1. Gaming isn’t yours. It never was. In the same way “A Song of Ice & Fire” isn’t yours, you don’t get to dictate the content of video games or who participates in them.

2. Women are not trying to steal gaming from you. We are only asking to be treated fairly in a medium we’ve been playing with, creating, criticizing, and participating in since its creation.

3. Yes really, we have been here the whole time.

4. When someone disagrees with you, threatening them with rape and murder and publishing their private information is not an appropriate response.

5. Female gamers and female videogame characters don’t exist to be your mascots, entertainers, or punching bags. Female gamers are humans and deserve to be treated as such. Female videogame characters deserve to have the full stories and varied characterizations that their male counterparts have.

6. Gaming.

7. Isn’t.

8. YOURS.

Female gamers aren’t going anywhere. You can’t chase us out of your treehouse because it was never your treehouse to begin with. Responding to things that are different from what you’re used to with misogynistic bullying is immature and hurtful to the gaming community as a whole. As Victoria McNally wrote in The Mary Sue, “It’s very difficult to point out legitimate criticisms of Sarkeesian’s analysis when so many assholes on the Internet are using those exact arguments as an excuse to call women sluts and threaten to rape them.”

Besides, even Joss Whedon want you to shut up…

And if you won’t listen to us, you’ll listen to him, right?