You’ve probably heard that a good way to cheer yourself up when you’re feeling lousy is to do something nice for someone else. It’s easier said than done – I don’t know about you, but when I’m feeling lousy, I usually prefer to sit and wallow in it for a while – but if you can ever get yourself to try it, making someone else feel good almost always results in you feeling good, too. Let someone know you think they’re special and worthy by doing one of these:
1) Write them a letter. Social media may allow for nonstop communication, but it doesn’t carry much weight. Taking the time to physically write out your thoughts for someone has lots of benefits: your friend gets a deeper glimpse into your life than what’s offered on Facebook; you spend some time evaluating what you’re up to; and your friend gets warm-fuzzies knowing someone took time out of his or her life to fill them in.
2) Call them. Another victim of Internet communication is the phone call. I’m guilty of not making enough phone calls myself, but they’re as close to a real-time conversation as you can get with a distant friend. Pick up the phone (or Skype) and actually use your voice to check in on someone. The conversation flows more naturally and you might pick up on some problems that would otherwise be disguised by texting or emailing.
3) Compliment them. Like that stranger’s shoes? Say so! Everyone likes compliments, when delivered appropriately, so go ahead and tell someone (in a polite, genuine, non-creepy way) that you think something about them is great.
4) Do something nice for them. We all speak different “love languages.” Some of us respond to kind words; others respond to actions or gifts. No matter what, your friend or partner will probably appreciate having flowers sent to them, or having you take the trash out. Actions speak louder than words!
5) Make something crafty (or edible) for them. A couple times in the past when I’ve felt down, I’ve gotten some amazing crafty cards from friends who wanted to cheer me up. One was an emailed photocollage of some of my favorite things; another was a customized book of Mad Libs. Getting a gift like that fills you up with warm fuzzies, and knowing someone is so thoroughly on your side that they’ll take the time to make something special for you is a great encouragement.
What other things do you like to do for a friend who’s feeling down? What’s the nicest thing someone did for you when you needed a pick-me up?