FBFF: Spring Trends

27 Jan

1. With Fashion Week just around the corner, we are all beginning to focus on the upcoming trends for fall. But what about the trends hitting stores now? What are you coveting?
Really?  We’re already onto fall?  I am such a fashion noob.

To be honest, I’m not coveting much at the moment.  I’m not a fan of the loose, asymmetrical silhouettes and bold primary colors that are in right now.  I’m more into feminine, classic colors and styles, which don’t seem to be very prominent.  And the colors, oh boy – it’s either neutral (and sad, dead-khaki neutral at that, not fresh neutral) or neon-mustard or neon-coral.  Really not my thing.

I’m kinda liking the lacy layerable sweaters I’m seeing here and there, although I’m still iffy on the boxy silhouettes.

spring sweaters

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Heels in a Warehouse #7

26 Jan

fashion, work wear, office casual, colored tights

Colored tights and colored shoes, for those days when you want to wear a skirt but don’t want to be taken too seriously.

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Top Ten Tuesday: 10 Books That Were Out Of My Comfort Zone

24 Jan

Today’s Top Ten Tuesday is a freebie, which lets me go back and answer a prompt that I’d missed out on.  This is one of the first TTTs I read and it’s an interesting prompt to think about since books can push our boundaries in different ways.  For me, the two main reasons a book was challenging were because of its especially thought-provoking content or unique writing style, sometimes both.

1. “Black Boy” by Richard Wright. (Content) I can’t remember which teacher thought it would be a good idea to cover this book in high school, but it scarred me for life pretty effectively.  The kid strangles a kitten within the first few chapters.  It was only marginally easier to read when we studied it again in college, after we’d had time as human beings to absorb more information about ongoing racial issues.  I don’t think this is an easy book to read at any age, but it’s an important one.  When taught by the right teacher at the right time, it can be truly eye-opening and provoke further investigation.

2. “As I Lay Dying” by William Faulkner.  (Content, Style) I had to drag myself through this one, but by God, I finished it.  I will probably never read Faulkner again.

3. “The Sun Also Rises” by Ernest Hemingway. (Style) Having been turned off of Hemingway early by a high school reading of “Old Man And The Sea,” I groaned at the idea of having to read more in college.  I did not hate this book, though, and I wasn’t even very bored by it.  It’s on my “go back and read more thoughtfully” list so I can try to get more out of it.

4. “Midnight’s Children” by Salman Rushdie. (Style) I saw a theory somewhere that no one has actually read “Midnight’s Children,” and I’m willing to believe it.  The blurb was so promising: all the children born at midnight on the day of India’s independence have superpowers.  I think I made it one hundred pages and there was no sign of any superchildren.  Instead, there were many many boring pages of a man and another man on a boat and the woman the first man wants to marry.  I couldn’t finish it.  At first I felt like a failure of an English major, but when I discovered the above theory, I felt better.

5. “Perdido Street Station” by China Mieville(Style) Reading this book was a little like being mugged by HP Lovecraft, Stephen King, and Guillermo del Toro, then waking up several months later to discover what they’ve stolen from you is your sanity.  “Perdido Street Station” is enormous, dense, and inventive to the point of hallucinogenic.  It features ordinary people, bug-people, cactus-people, eagle-people, frog-people, and genetically-altered people who all discuss politics, art, ethics, genetics and biology, philosophy, and probably several other issues and subjects that my brain just doesn’t have room to store.  It was really cool – except it was really long and it had a really unfulfilling ending.  I’m willing to try more Mieville, but only after a stiff drink.

6. Sandman by Neil Gaiman. (Style) I’m working my way slowly (very slowly) through this series, and each book is a challenge.  The art is trippy and the story only occasionally follows a main story arc.  Sometimes the main character doesn’t even show up.  The stories, though, are uniquely wonderful.

7. “The Road” by Cormac McCarthy. (Content, Style) This might be sort of a cop-out because McCarthy’s books exist out of everyone’s comfort zones.  I can’t think of many people who would be comfortable reading long, grim descriptions of an ashy post-apocalyptic wasteland where the only survivors are a man, his young son, and hordes of cannibalistic bandits.  Still, it was somehow beautiful, if you’re up for feeling terrible for a couple weeks.

8. “The Magicians” by Lev Grossman. (Content) For a book about magic and escapism, it sure makes you hate life a little.  I can’t remember the last time a book made me question so deeply who I am, why I’m here, and what I’m doing with my tiny scrap of useless existance.  (See?  Life-hating.)  Quentin, a magician, suffers a tragic character arc of Shakespearian proportions and emerges jaded, self-centered, and kind of an asshole.  What actually made his character arc tragic is even harder to read.  However, I actually enjoyed the sequel – like, really found pleasure in reading it, rather than just that masochistic joy of fighting through it.  Quentin finally learns to have feelings, namely remorse, and while he’s still pretty self-centered and mopey, he goes through some real soul-searching and finally figures out who he wants to be, which has been the running theme through both books.

9. “Intimacy” by Hanif Kureishi. (Content) This is one of the two books I read in college that I can remember absolutely hating.  Loathing.  Detesting with every fiber of my being.  It took a great deal of self-control to not start shrieking “WHY ARE WE EVEN READING THIS” during class.  Because it was terrible.  I hate this book the way I hate the movie “Crash:” because it concocts a contrived, unrealistic story of people who do not act like real people, in order to tell us how terrible people are, and then offers no solutions for how to not be terrible.  “Intimacy” did not have cutting commentary on loneliness or love or modern relationships. No, it was not a blazing, raw portrait of the collapse of a modern family.  And no, it is not a scathing critique of the modern male, because if I was a male I would be straight-up insulted by the author’s assumption the all men hate domesticity and think being married is like being imprisoned.  This book is just a couple hundred pages of the narrator (a semi-autobiographical extension of the author) acting like a four-year-old because he can’t have sex with more than one woman at a time anymore.

10. “Mumbo Jumbo” by Ishmael Reed. (Content, Style) This is the other book I hated.  Hidden somewhere amid the graphs of WWII bomb tonnage and other unrelated illustrations was probably an interesting and relevant story about the Harlem Renaissance.  There was also something about a conspiracy by a secret society to keep folks from dancing.  Unfortunately, the secret society and the irrelevant graphs and the felony-grade neglect of punctuation made it nearly impossible to learn anything from this book.

Read the other, less angry entries here!

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Links Lundi

23 Jan

A private letter from genre to literature.

Watch this year’s Sundance Film Festival short films online! Vote for your favorite and help a filmmaker win $5,000.

Love & Olive Oil has a cookbook full of cookie dough recipes coming out!  The best part is that they’re raw-egg-free, so germophobes like me can munch happily.

Remember Crush from “American Gladiator?”  In real life she’s Gina Carano, MMA fighter, and when Steven Soderbergh saw her fight, he said “She needs a movie” and came up with Haywire. It was actually really enjoyable – not the best script, but the fight scenes were stylish and it was nice to finally have a believable action heroine, rather than a twiggy Zoe Saldana or Angelina Jolie.

A Timelord man with two hearts survives a heart attack.

Hello Monkeyface has revealed her face (!) and her new blog!

Sarah’s Guide To Dressing Like A Classy Broad While Traveling, which will come in handy when we go on our honeymoon at the end of the month (!) and when I go to Hawaii this summer (!!)

I thought the 3D Star Wars re-releases were still a couple years away. I’m only moderately excited that the first movie is hitting theaters on February 10th (!). Only a little. Couldn’t care less, actually. Not particularly interested that all six (!!) of some of my favorite movies ever are going to be back in theaters (!!!). In 3D. Starting in less than three weeks.  (!!!!!!!!)

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Six Months

23 Jan

Welp, we’ve been married for six months!  It should probably feel like we just got hitched yesterday, but to me it feels like we’ve been married ages (in a good way).

I realized I never posted the official wedding photos, so this is probably a good time to share those.  Huge thanks go to Alicia Joy and Heather for these! (In the unlikely event that anyone wants to pin/tumblr/post these for wedding inspiration, PLEASE link to the photographer, NOT ME. This is part of our contract! Thank yew.)

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Things I Do When Procrastinating

20 Jan

1) check Facebook

2) make tea

3) read short stories or poems…for research…

4) check Facebook

5) check Twitter

6) read Kate Beaton comics

7) light a candle

8) get name ideas from Wikipedia

9) read eighteen other Wikipedia articles

10) catch up on blogs

11) get a blanket because I’m cold

12) check Facebook

Heels in a Warehouse #6

18 Jan

How’s this for a leggings look?  I took inspiration from a realtor I had worked with in Salem.  She always dressed in neutrals, but she sometimes wore a gray jumper over leggings with a long-sleeved tee underneath.  It made for a chic, modern silhouette, and even though I was terrified of leggings at the time, I never forgot the look.  My tees didn’t quite work out for this, but I think the button-up looks good.

I think I like it better without the cardigan:

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Top Ten Tuesday: Books I’d Recommend To Non-Science-Fiction Readers

17 Jan

I can remember talking about Ray Bradbury with some very well-read classmates and the professor during a creative writing class.  We were all discussing our favorite authors, and he’s one of mine.

“Isn’t he dead?” someone asked.

“No!  He’s like, ninety, but he’s not dead.  I would know.”

“He’s kind of crazy, though.”

I would have argued, but the professor was nodding sagely, as professors are wont to do.  They told me about his “Ray Bradbury Theater,” which admittedly sounded a bit crazy.

“But ‘Fahrenheit 451,’” I protested to unimpressed ears.  “‘Illustrated Man.’ ‘Martian Chronicles.’  Some Twilight Zone episodes!  The guy practically invented science fiction as we know it.”

It turned out the problem wasn’t entirely with Bradbury – it was with science fiction itself.  They (like many) didn’t consider it literary enough.  Even the genre itself occasionally hides under other names, like “speculative fiction,” in attempt to disassociate from the pulp stigmas of “sci-fi”.  As a result, and as in many genres, some readers overlook it entirely, and they miss out on some incredible works that have shaped not just the genre, but other books and pop culture as a whole.

So for today’s Top Ten Tuesday, here are my recommendations to people who think they’re too literary to try science fiction.  A huge flaw in this list is that I haven’t read many of the genre’s greatest - primarily Isaac Asimov, Ursula K. LeGuin, Neal Stephenson, or Philip K. Dick.  I can’t really endorse them, having never read them…but I’ll endorse them anyway, especially Asimov and Dick, since many popular sci-fi movies are based on their stories (“I, Robot,” “Minority Report,” and “Blade Runner,” to name a couple).

1. “The Illustrated Man” by Ray Bradbury.  If I was trying to win someone over to Bradbury, this is the book I’d force on them.  A mysterious tattooed man takes shelter with the narrator, and his cursed tattooes come to life and tell stories of space travel, nuclear apocalypse, Martians, and robots, complete with themes of discrimination, religion, censorship, human purpose and destiny, and family.

2. “The Handmaid’s Tale” by Margaret Atwood. Oh, dystopias. What is it about them that makes us actually enjoy reading them?  Is it because we’re safe in our comfortable non-dystopian world?  “Handmaid’s Tale” will destroy your comfort within a couple pages, but the beauty of speculative fiction is that it won’t necessarily happen…right?  Right?

3. “Perdido Street Station” by China Mieville.  You want literary science fiction?  Give “Perdido Street Station” a try and let me know when your pulverized brain makes it to the last of its 623 pages.  The city of New Crobuzon is neither a utopia nor a dystopia – it’s a city, a grungy, Dickens-in-Marrakesh city full of artists and criminals and politicians and cactus-people.  It touches on just about every theme it’s possible for a book to touch on, and it does so with refreshingly little exposition – what?  There’s cactus people?  No explanation given.  Deal with it.  Your disbelief has been suspended and you didn’t even realize it.

4. “The Road” by Cormac McCarthy.  The world has been ravaged by an unspecified disaster, and an unnamed man and his son struggle through a dead, gray, brutal wilderness towards the coast, for no other reason besides needing a destination and the tiny glimmer of hope it provides.  It’s exhausting and sometimes painful to read, but the characters in ”The Road” never lose faith, and they don’t let us, either, in spite of everything.

5. “The War of the Worlds” by H.G. Wells.  Giant Martian tripods annihilate nineteenth-century England and all its Victorian sensibilities.  There’s no Will Smith with big guns or Doctor Who with a sonic screwdriver to help save the day – it’s just one ordinary dude, trying to stay alive and find his wife in a world gone utterly to hell.  I yearn for a steampunk-ian period film adaptation, although I did enjoy the surprisingly faithful Tom Cruise version – the death rays, an attack at a ferry crossing, and crazies who want to fight back are all from the book.

6. The Mars Trilogy by Kim Stanley Robinson.  Okay, I never managed to finish these books either, but that’s because I tried to read them when was twelve or thirteen and “Red Mars” was just too boring.  Maybe I’ll put them on my 2013 reading list…

7. “Brave New World” by Aldous Huxley.  I found this easier to read than “1984″ (another one I never finished – I suck!).  I think what drew me to it was its more morbidly compelling “positive” dystopia, where the people don’t even know they’re repressed, as opposed to a “negative” dystopia where people are aware of their forceful subjugation.  People in the world of “Brave New World” are genetically engineered and sorted into castes, then further controlled via drugs and orgies.  This was essentially the first dystopian novel and it addresses many of the concerns of the 1920s when Huxley was writing it, like increasing consumerism, loss of individuality in an industrialized world, and the international political uncertainty following WWI.

8. “Slaughterhouse Five” by Kurt Vonnegut.  An American POW is abducted by aliens later in life and spends the rest of the book time-traveling and/or going crazy.  If you’re literary-minded, you’ve probably read this anyway.

9. “Dune” by Frank Herbert.  Come on, it’s “Dune.”  It’s like the Star Wars of science fiction literature.  It’s a coming-of-age tale, a religious allegory, and a courtly intrigue all in one huge, imaginative package.

10. “Never Let Me Go” by Kazuo Ishiguro. At first glace, you won’t even know this is science fiction.  Then the mysterious dystopia beautifully unfolds itself, Atwood-style, and you realize this near future has a horrible, tragic secret.

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Links Lundi

16 Jan

A tutorial for layering cardigans.  I WILL NEVER BE COLD AGAIN.

Words to live by, courtesy of the Doctor, all eleven of him.

The complete Jason Wu collection for Target has been unveiled!  Some of it is a little too Lolita and/or nautical for me, but I love this skirtthis scarf, and this tote.  And this dress.

A self-published author took offense to a negative review and responded by copying & pasting 40 glowing reviews in 40 separate comments, accusing the reviewer of having anger issues, and repeatedly insisting to personally meet her to explain himself.  And yes, it appears most of the reviews were written either by himself or his family.  Here’s a tip: if you’re posting 40 comments somewhere, on any subject, in less than half an hour, you are crazy.

Speaking of crazy, this blogger’s reflection on her obsession with keeping crayons tidy feels a little familiar.

Deserted London on Christmas morning.

I know the whole point of The Glamourai is to look upon her and envy her, but I seriously envy the awesome photoshoot/vacation she got to do with cinemagraph artists.  Guh.

And from the Department of Nerdy T-shirts, a primary factor in why I will never be like the Glamourai, along with not having magical cheekbones: this Kate Beaton tee.

Defending the Princess

13 Jan

Have you guys seen “Tangled?”  Before it came out, I thought it sounded silly – a spunky teenage Rapunzel having “the best day ever” with a handsome scoundrel thrown in as a desperate grab for the male viewership.  However, “Tangled” turned out to be a fresh, clever, and funny update on the Disney princess mythology.  Rapunzel is intelligent, brave, honest, and calls her own shots, and even though the movie’s ending makes the feminist side of me puff up in fury just a tiny bit, she’s a welcome addition to the princess pantheon.

It even made me start to wonder if it was really such a bad thing for little girls to want to grow up to be princesses.

Now put down the torches and pitchforks for a minute.  Yes, there are many pitfalls involved in being a Disney princess, like how being thin and beautiful is everything and how you’re always needing to be rescued and/or validated by a man.  But society has become aware of this and princesses are slowly (very slowly) but surely modifying their behavior to fit in with the 21st century and become more rounded women.  Look at how far we’ve come between Snow White and Tiana – Tiana doesn’t even want the prince for the first chunk of the movie.  But when you give them each a chance, even the old-fashioned prince-obsessed princesses have some very positive traits that every modern girl can aspire to.

1) They’re creative. What do all princesses have in common?  Singing.  Yeah, they’re usually singing about the men in their lives, but in some cases (Ariel and Rapunzel in particular) the princess’s voice is her greatest asset.  Little girls tend to run around singing anyway, but that goofy kid trait could be nurtured into a true creative outlet.  And princesses aren’t confined to just singing, at least not anymore: Belle reads, Tiana bakes, and Rapunzel does just about everything:

In an era where activities that nurture creativity are the first to get cut whenever money gets tight, these talented princesses can act as true role models.  Even the more old-fashioned princesses probably have a good deal of latent creativity: Cinderella could make a mean quilt after all those years mending clothes, and Sleeping Beauty probably picked up a few sustainable-gardening skills during her years in the forest.  And let’s not forget Mulan’s martial arts…

2) They’re good with animals.  Snow White, Pocahontas, Cinderella, Aurora, Rapunzel, Giselle from “Enchanted”…the other thing pretty much all princesses have in common is having a weird rapport with animals. Princesses talk (or sing) nicely to them, and animals turn up to help with chores, save you from the bad guys, or bring you stuff.  Even Mulan, the tomboy among princesses, has her cricket sidekick.  The Disney princesses’ fondness for animals can translate – yes, it’s kind of a stretch, bear with me - into teaching little girls to respect all life.  Obviously trying to learn mind control to get a horde of squirrels to do your laundry probably isn’t going to turn out well, but how about a career as a veterinarian?  Volunteer opportunities abound, too – little girls can get some valuable experiences working at pet shelters while they pretend to be Cinderella with a cottageful of critters.

3) They’re nice.  Today the definition of  “strong woman” blurs easily into “bitch,” and even worse, the latter definition is the one that tends to be glorified.  Magazines and popular media teach you how to be a bitch because from their point of view, that’s the only way a woman can get what she wants.  Treating people nicely is equated with being a doormat.  The golden rule – treat others how you’d want to be treated – has gotten a little lost, along with the idea that people might actually like and respect you more if you’re nice to them.  As for the princesses, they’ve made careers out of being nice.  Belle and Cinderella stand out most here: one broke a curse by teaching the Beast about love and kindness, and the other found the strength to forgive her abusive stepfamily (once she was in a safe position to do so).  These days it’s more of a challenge to be nice and rise above conflicts, rather than give into cattiness and criticism – which means acting like a princess, contrary to the stereotype, is no walk in the park.

4) They see the best in everyone.

This is another one that opposes the modern “bitch” ideal and yet also causes problems for girls.  Seeing the best in someone can lead to clinging to the wrong guy for way too long, hoping to “change” him, because that’s what princesses do, right?  They turn the Beast back into Prince Charming.  They also put themselves in situations that could easily lead to them being taken advantage of in the real world.  If you flee into the woods (Snow White), odds are not great that you’ll be rescued by a band of forest critters and some good-hearted dwarves.  It’s also unlikely that if you lose your treasured voice (Ariel) or run away to an unfamiliar city (Jasmine), you’ll be taken care of by good citizens.  Even Rapunzel, whose combination of street smarts and faith in humanity wins over a pub-ful of thugs, nearly gets in trouble when she finally lets her guard down.

But worse things can happen when we give up on someone.  When someone never hears that they’re worthy or loved or needed – or worse, when they’re outright told that they’re not – the effects are devastating.  Why would someone make an effort if they know it won’t be appreciated?  One of my friends told me recently about the family who lives next door to her, where the father constantly swears and screams at his son and tells him he’s worthless and a failure.  All I could coherently get out at the time was “seriously?!” but seriously, what good can possibly come out of all that negative reinforcement?  What will constant criticism accomplish other than total defeat?

And this is where we need princesses more than anything.  We need people – not just women – who are patient, optimistic, brave, open-minded, and kind, who have faith that people can be better and situations can change, and who won’t give up when things are difficult.  In this regard, the Disney princesses are some of the best role models I can think of, so long as we can balance 21st-century common sense with old-fashioned morality.

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