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Sick of the inaccurate, oversexualized, and unrealistic portrayal of women in comics? Want to see the worst offenders shamed? Escher Girls is on the case! (Often NSFW.) (Also check out their predecessor, Boobs Don’t Work That Way.)

“If you could play a historical figure in a movie, say, a hero of yours, who would it be?” The fact that it took so long for Sarah to come up with a name says something about how women are valued in history.

Little girls want action figures, too…so where are they?

Daphne “cursed” to be “size 8″ because it’s “what she holds most dear.”

And the winner for Most Scornful Quotation Marks In A Title goes to…!

A new Scooby-Doo movie came out on Tuesday: “Scooby-Doo: Frankencreepy,” in which the gang investigates a haunted house and are cursed to lose “that which they hold most dear.”

For Daphne, that means losing her good looks:

There’s a lot wrong here, so let’s break it down.

1. Being fat isn’t a punishment. The average American woman is size 12-14. Plus-size clothing starts at size 12. Odds are good that you, your mom, your sister, your friends – not to mention many thousands of the women purchasing the Scooby-Doo movie for their kids – are size 8 or more. Life goes on! Unless you’re watching a movie with your kids and suddenly a character is horrifically cursed to look like…well, like an average woman.

2. Nor is being fat hideous. The worst thing Daphne can imagine happening to her is losing her good looks – so the movie gives her extra weight and frizzy hair? Why not, I don’t know, making her sprout a third eye, or tentacles, or turn green, or have her limbs be reversed, or dissolve into shapeless goo? It’s not bad or wrong to be a size 8, and for Scooby-Doo to equate it with ugliness is incredibly hurtful and damaging.

Now THIS is ugly.

3. That’s supposed to be what size 8 looks like? On their scale, a size 20 woman is apparently the size of the Moon. The age demographic watching Scooby-Doo probably isn’t paying too much attention to the number on their clothing labels just yet, but they will soon, and when they try on size 8 clothing, guess what image is probably going to come to mind. Good job, Warner Brothers! You’ve found another way to introduce fat phobia to kids. I hope you’re pleased with yourselves.

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10 Things Feminists Hate

You might have seen a blog a couple weeks ago full of women holding up lists of reasons why they don’t need feminism. You may have also heard of actresses like Shailene Woodley claiming reluctance to call themselves feminists.

The funny (and by “funny” I mean “kind of heartbreaking”) part is that these statements tend to follow a pattern:

“I’m not a feminist, but I believe in X, Y, and Z feminist beliefs.”

“I don’t need feminism because (results of decades of feminist activism).”

I think people are afraid to refer to themselves as feminists because of the widespread misunderstanding of what feminism really is. Feminists don’t hate men. Feminist women don’t want to be better than men. If you say you don’t need feminism because you’re your husband’s equal, congratulations! You’re a feminist. If you think you don’t need feminism because you can vote, well, you have previous generations of feminists thank for that.

Men seem to be particularly afraid to identify as feminists, again forming their opinion on an untrue belief: that feminism is only for women. It isn’t, just like the civil rights movement wasn’t only for racial minorities. (And while women usually like having the platform to ourselves for once, we do appreciate it when someone else stands up for us.) If you are a man and you believe women deserve equal pay, the ability to choose what they want to do with their lives, and freedom from street harassment, congratulations! You, too, are a feminist.

So if feminists don’t hate men, what do we hate? Here’s my list – you might be surprised at what you have in common with a feminist.

1. Sexual inequality. We hate that women still earn less than men. We hate gender double standards. We hate that one parent is viewed as more skilled or better at parenting than the other. We hate being bullied into embracing unwanted gender roles. It’s a long list – feel free to add to it.

2. Paper cuts. They’re the worst, right?!

3. Racial inequality. When the book “Lean in” came out, it stirred up a lot of controversy because of its portrayal of one white, cis-gendered, upper-middle-class woman’s experiences. There is no one-size-fits-all feminism, and when we try to act like there is, many women get shut out. This is where intersectional feminism comes into play, taking into account the varying experiences of women from different races.

4. All other kinds of inequality. Intersectional feminism also addresses the experiences of women from different classes, gender identities, ages, and levels of ability. Feminists don’t want any woman to feel shut out.

5. Having food go bad. You’re finally going to eat healthy and have salad for dinner, only to discover that the lettuce has turned into brown goo. And that fancy cheese left over from that party? Yeah, you should have finished that by now. And don’t even get me started on that last half-inch of milk with a five-day-old best-by date that everyone is too afraid to test.

6. People who don’t pick up after their dogs. We went to the beach on Saturday and twice I saw people leave their dogs’ poop right there in the sand. You know people are walking barefoot in that sand, right? And kids are playing in it? Just checking.

7. Having our words disregarded or ignored. Whether it’s a long-hidden story of abuse that someone was afraid to share out of fear of not being believed, or an instance of street harassment that someone just wants to vent about, nothing riles up a feminist more than wanting her (or his) words to be heard and not having the space or freedom to say them and have them be taken seriously.

8. Being sick. Especially when that space between your nose and your upper lip gets all chapped. Not fun.

9. When something goes wrong with your laundry. I just tried to wash our pillows and mine came out looking distinctly un-pillow-like. Sigh.

10. Trolls, apologists, deniers, devil’s advocates, derailers, etc. The events in Ferguson have been widely discussed this week – but I’ve kept my opinions to myself, because as a white girl from the Pacific Northwest, it’s not my place to weigh in. If you’ve ever made an issue somehow about you when it wasn’t; if you’ve ever played devil’s advocate simply to have something to say; if you’ve ever made excuses for someone’s behavior even when it was pretty definitely wrong; if you’ve made a joke to “lighten the mood” or to get a rise out of someone, you probably made a feminist angry at some point.

Sometimes, like Ferguson is not about me, the issue is not about you. Please leave the floor open for someone directly affected by it to share what’s on their mind, without being interrupted by jokes or explanations, no matter how well-meaning they might be, because that person may not get much opportunity to do so otherwise. Just sit back, take your hands off the keyboard, and listen for a while. You might be surprised at what you learn.

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Confused about what a strong female character should look like? This comic will help clear things up.

Speaking of strong female characters, Marvel Studios is suddenly all weird about their lack of a Black Widow movie, blaming “timing” and their crowded schedule for their unwillingness to produce a female-led movie. Meanwhile, Joss Whedon apparently made room for four “prominent” female roles in the next Avengers movie. Please oh please oh please let one of them be Captain Marvel.

Make your house look like a geek cathedral with comics-inspired stained glass stickers!

Cosplayer Emily has an amazing blog, The Stylish Geek, which showcases her various costumes, plus the geeky fashion she works into everyday life.

Via Already Pretty, here’s a great video about gendered marketing:

Currently: August

We’re finally having a bit of cooler weather, which reminds me fall is coming, whether I’m ready for it or not. (I kind of am.) The change of seasons is always a good time for a meme.

Well, all the time is a good time for a meme, but here we are.

Current Book(s): Um, several. “Boneshaker” by Cherie Priest, “Mission to Paris” by Alan Furst, various Wonder Woman books, and “Jesus Feminist” by Sarah Bessey.

Current Playlist: My videogame soundtrack playlist for writing, my Lord Huron playlist for driving.

Current Shame-Inducing Guilty Pleasure: Working my way through the giant bag of chocolate covered sea salt caramels I got at the beach.

Current Color: black – black sweats or black T-shirts.

Current Drink: white wine.

Current Food: sea salt caramels! Also salads with chicken on them.

Current Favorite Show: We’re still working our way through TNG, but I keep finding myself peeking over Kevin’s shoulder whenever he’s watching “White Collar.”

Current Wishlist: New jeans :( This Captain Marvel T-shirt. More Captain Marvel and Wonder Woman graphic novels. Captain Marvel’s uniform jacket, which doesn’t exist in real life unless you make your own. A lightsaber for my Luke Skywalker costume. Better wrists.

Current Needs: To finish revising a damn short story already.

Current Triumphs: I conducted two interviews for church promotional project!

Current Bane(s) of my Existence: Tendonitiiiiiis. Sexism in comics. Procrastination.

Current Celebrity Crush: Matt Bomer. Kelly Sue DeConnick.

Current Indulgence: Sea salt caramels. White wine. Not writing.

Current #1 Blessing: Writing!

Current Slang or Saying: can’t really think of anything…

Current Outfit: T-shirt tucked into my gray maxi skirt.

Current Excitement: I’m hosting a baby shower this weekend for which I get to make tiny peach pies!

Current Mood: hungry… I tend to forget to have breakfast until, well, lunchtime.